Because we promote the nuclear family above all others

I had enough of this “I want to promote the nucleus family but I still admire the single family” nonsense. It is at best ignorant, at worse hypocritical, and insufferable when these people start waving the I-am-also-from-a-single-family card in my face.

I’ll give them the benefit of doubt that it is ignorance, so here are some facts –

Precisely because we promote the nuclear family above all others, our policies become discriminatory towards those who do not conform.

Precisely because we promote the nuclear family above all others,
my daughter is considered illegitimate without the same legal rights as other children.

Precisely because we promote the nuclear family above all others,
she received only 2 days of childcare leave to spend with me, while other children received 12 days from both parents combined.*

Precisely because we promote the nuclear family above all others,
I had a baby, but someone forgot my $12,000 bonus.

Precisely because we promote the nuclear family above all others,
I am a mother, but am denied the Parenthood Tax Rebate and Working Mothers’ Child Relief.

Precisely because we promote the nuclear family above all others,
I have a family, but it is deemed incomplete and we are refused a home to call our own.

So if you want to promote the nuclear family, it is your prerogative. But do know that it is precisely this prerogative, together with the domino effect from your blind persecution of certain groups, that makes reality that much harder for us.

Unfortunately, your admiration will do nothing to alleviate that.

#getreal

*true story 2012 – when I raised this issue with an MP in a dialogue session, she gave me the most interesting expression, “oh, I didn’t realized we forgot about you”. In 2013, the childcare leave of 6 days was given to all parents. It is an improvement but from the perspective of benefits to a child, we are still shortchanged.

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